Creating safe emotional space is about holding space within which all people are able to be their authentic selves and express their true emotions without fear of judgement, ridicule or dismissal. I would argue that the key to achieving this is not so much about creating a safe emotional space but holding the space. When you hold space for someone, you bring your entire presence to them. You walk along with them without judgement, sharing their journey to an unknown destination. Yet you're completely willing to end up wherever they need to go. You give your heart, let go of control, and offer unconditional support. I would argue that this process begins not at the funeral ceremony but at the initial meeting with the family. For the celebrant this is about active listening, empathy and resisting the temptation to “fix” anything.
On the day of the ceremony this is about greeting the family as they arrive, shaking hands or giving them a hug. Reminding them that you are there for them and that we are about to have a wonderful funeral ceremony that is exactly what their loved one would have wanted.
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